Post by Pandie on Jul 15, 2010 17:40:53 GMT -5
I read a friends post about the type of guy she falls for, and thought I'd give my own a shot. Mind you, I'm not in the pleasant of moods this evening, so bare with me here.
Once I hit about thirteen-ish people began to ask me what I looked for in a guy. Now, back then it was easy. Blond hair. Dont ask. I had a major thing for blondes. But I was 13, so I wasn't all that fussy.
When I reached fourteen I had a thing for guy's that walked on the edge... Explains my three year relationship with Thomas. He was the guy with sandy medium hair, blue eyes, and known as a trouble maker. He did and delt drugs, skipped class, and wasn't exactly the most well liked guy around. I dated him for three years and when we broke up he was still the sandy hair blue eye'd guy, but he was drug free, no longer dealing, and very very popular.
When I turned seventeen, my taste in men changed again. Now I was into the old midevil type. Long hair... Smooth talker. Polite. The whole romantic prince kind of guy. I gotta say, that stage lasted a good couple of years.
But now I'm almost twenty. I still often get asked what I look for in a guy, and believe it or not, no one believe's me when they hear what I have to say.
From thirteen to seventeen I was so used to controling things around me. Being a cheerleader, it kinda came with the title, but I had control of everything. From friends, to strangers, 'nerds', even relationships. So, when I hit nineteen, I wanted something different. I wanted a guy that took charge for once. A guy that ordered me about instead of me doing the ordering. You know, the risky type. That guy that gave you chills just thinking about him.
Dr. Ditz said that she thought I wanted a guy that would force me into a heavy liplock, that swept me off my feet secretly. And when I reject him and tell him to go to hell (in so many words) He'd know I didn't mean it and kiss deeper.
Of course, being the smartass mouth I am, I assumed she was hinting that I wanted a guy to harrasse me, but she explained that wasn't it at all. I wanted someone whom would carry the weight of a relationship for once. That I strived to be ordered about, making me feel secure. I still don't quite understand what she was getting at, but I think she had a small point in her mist of speculations. I wanted someone else to wear the pants in a relationship. Someone else to do the work for once.
Now, I think either my expectations have dropped dramatically, or I just dont know what I want, because all of the above are mixed into what I look for in a man. Cuddly, medium/short hair, demanding, but with a romantic side. Someone that could make me laugh so many times, I'd never be bored. A guy that I'm never sick of seeing. Now, mind you. I don't expect to find that guy. Life's full of fishes.. Or is it trees?
Either way, I think being at the ripe age that I'm at now, exploring is the best of the best. What do I look for in a man? Absolutely nothing, because I'm not looking. I think the best relationships start off as a complete surprise. If you look too hard, you might just miss it right in front of you.
What's the point in looking for a specific quiality in a guy, when they all go out the window the day you fall in love anyways? Every quality they have becomes a quality you look for. Everything about them is a good thing. And everything that's not. There's no point trying to pinpoint what you look for in a guy, because it will always change. It's like the weather. When it's winter, you yearn for summer. When summer's here you beg for snow.
But when you reach that short moment right in the middle where you are completely content, that's love. Where something isn't perfect, but it's perfect for you.
What do I look for in a guy? Simple. I look for his smile, because so long as he can smile hello, he's all I need.
Once I hit about thirteen-ish people began to ask me what I looked for in a guy. Now, back then it was easy. Blond hair. Dont ask. I had a major thing for blondes. But I was 13, so I wasn't all that fussy.
When I reached fourteen I had a thing for guy's that walked on the edge... Explains my three year relationship with Thomas. He was the guy with sandy medium hair, blue eyes, and known as a trouble maker. He did and delt drugs, skipped class, and wasn't exactly the most well liked guy around. I dated him for three years and when we broke up he was still the sandy hair blue eye'd guy, but he was drug free, no longer dealing, and very very popular.
When I turned seventeen, my taste in men changed again. Now I was into the old midevil type. Long hair... Smooth talker. Polite. The whole romantic prince kind of guy. I gotta say, that stage lasted a good couple of years.
But now I'm almost twenty. I still often get asked what I look for in a guy, and believe it or not, no one believe's me when they hear what I have to say.
From thirteen to seventeen I was so used to controling things around me. Being a cheerleader, it kinda came with the title, but I had control of everything. From friends, to strangers, 'nerds', even relationships. So, when I hit nineteen, I wanted something different. I wanted a guy that took charge for once. A guy that ordered me about instead of me doing the ordering. You know, the risky type. That guy that gave you chills just thinking about him.
Dr. Ditz said that she thought I wanted a guy that would force me into a heavy liplock, that swept me off my feet secretly. And when I reject him and tell him to go to hell (in so many words) He'd know I didn't mean it and kiss deeper.
Of course, being the smartass mouth I am, I assumed she was hinting that I wanted a guy to harrasse me, but she explained that wasn't it at all. I wanted someone whom would carry the weight of a relationship for once. That I strived to be ordered about, making me feel secure. I still don't quite understand what she was getting at, but I think she had a small point in her mist of speculations. I wanted someone else to wear the pants in a relationship. Someone else to do the work for once.
Now, I think either my expectations have dropped dramatically, or I just dont know what I want, because all of the above are mixed into what I look for in a man. Cuddly, medium/short hair, demanding, but with a romantic side. Someone that could make me laugh so many times, I'd never be bored. A guy that I'm never sick of seeing. Now, mind you. I don't expect to find that guy. Life's full of fishes.. Or is it trees?
Either way, I think being at the ripe age that I'm at now, exploring is the best of the best. What do I look for in a man? Absolutely nothing, because I'm not looking. I think the best relationships start off as a complete surprise. If you look too hard, you might just miss it right in front of you.
What's the point in looking for a specific quiality in a guy, when they all go out the window the day you fall in love anyways? Every quality they have becomes a quality you look for. Everything about them is a good thing. And everything that's not. There's no point trying to pinpoint what you look for in a guy, because it will always change. It's like the weather. When it's winter, you yearn for summer. When summer's here you beg for snow.
But when you reach that short moment right in the middle where you are completely content, that's love. Where something isn't perfect, but it's perfect for you.
What do I look for in a guy? Simple. I look for his smile, because so long as he can smile hello, he's all I need.
