Post by Pandie on Jul 15, 2010 17:44:54 GMT -5
When you grow up with certain outlooks, you subconsciously begin to live by them, and although you're aware of other actions and other ways of life, you can't picture ever changing your mind. You can spend years living up to your own image, but eventually you will change, whether it be from circumstance, time, from aquintinces, love, pain. Everyone always says that change can be a good thing, and though I agree, it can also be bad. My question isn't whether change is a positive aspect or not, but rather how we're suppose to trust it.
I think for everyone it's different, but for me change was consistant, and I thrived on that for the longest time. Perhaps this was only because change was always a good thing then. From diapers to big girl panties. Preschool to Highschool. Cooties to falling in love. Eventually you begin to think that all change is good, and you begin to thrive on that speculation.
Then, out of the blue, change does a complete flipflop, and begins to become negative. You get your heart broken. Experience money issues. Work stress. Suddenly change is no longer pleasant, but painful. And if you allow it to, it can become, well, downright frightening. You begin to dread it, to hate it. You can even withdraw from a situation just to prevent change, but the thing is change is enevitable.
I wonder how people can be afraid of change... Though I myself have experienced change for the worse, I still find myself embracing it. Today alone I experienced a negative change, infact that is why I sat down to write at all. I did something that I thought I would never do. Something that I once felt strongly against. Did it change my mind? Do I feel differently about it now? Do I understand it more? No, not in the least.
The point is that not all change is good. So, then why is it that I'm not yet afraid of change like so many are? I think, perhaps, it is because I can remember back in the day when it meant only good things, and I guess I'm still waiting for change to do another flipflop.
I guess my point is that we shouldn't be afraid of change, just because we think it will hurt, but rather continue to embrace it - good or bad. After all, if we try to prevent change to protect ourselves, we'll ultimately miss out on all the change that could have been for the best. If it flipflopped once, it can do it again.
Never be afraid of the unknown, for your greatest memories come as a complete surprise, and change - good or bad, is what makes us who we are.
I think for everyone it's different, but for me change was consistant, and I thrived on that for the longest time. Perhaps this was only because change was always a good thing then. From diapers to big girl panties. Preschool to Highschool. Cooties to falling in love. Eventually you begin to think that all change is good, and you begin to thrive on that speculation.
Then, out of the blue, change does a complete flipflop, and begins to become negative. You get your heart broken. Experience money issues. Work stress. Suddenly change is no longer pleasant, but painful. And if you allow it to, it can become, well, downright frightening. You begin to dread it, to hate it. You can even withdraw from a situation just to prevent change, but the thing is change is enevitable.
I wonder how people can be afraid of change... Though I myself have experienced change for the worse, I still find myself embracing it. Today alone I experienced a negative change, infact that is why I sat down to write at all. I did something that I thought I would never do. Something that I once felt strongly against. Did it change my mind? Do I feel differently about it now? Do I understand it more? No, not in the least.
The point is that not all change is good. So, then why is it that I'm not yet afraid of change like so many are? I think, perhaps, it is because I can remember back in the day when it meant only good things, and I guess I'm still waiting for change to do another flipflop.
I guess my point is that we shouldn't be afraid of change, just because we think it will hurt, but rather continue to embrace it - good or bad. After all, if we try to prevent change to protect ourselves, we'll ultimately miss out on all the change that could have been for the best. If it flipflopped once, it can do it again.
Never be afraid of the unknown, for your greatest memories come as a complete surprise, and change - good or bad, is what makes us who we are.